Seven Creative ways to change your point of view

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By Ali Luke

Few things make you stressed unnecessarily?

You feel a nagging sense of dissatisfaction with your life?

What is you struggle to see from point of view of other people?

It is often difficult to keep a sense of perspective in our lives. We are constantly bombarded by stimuli urgent seeming - like texts, telephone calls, instant messages, tweets and emails. We live each day in haste, fighting our way through a list of tasks without end.

And we often grumble and complain about problems in our life, while ignoring all the good things we have. Could be equally hampered vision and believe that our opinions are good.

Change your point of view can be incredibly refreshing. It could:

Open new opportunities that you had not thought beforeHelp allows you to heal a relationship with someone who you think have "stupid" values and opinionsCalm you down when you feel stressedLet you love and appreciate all the good things you have already

Here are seven simple ways to change your point of view. Give one (or more!) to try, today:

When I'm worried about something, that is what I often ask me. Almost always, the answer is that it does little in a week, and still less than five years.

Some days - even certain times - are Exchange life. You have probably been through some of them - as examinations, job interviews, the decision to marry or buy a House.

Most of what we were worried, however, is fleeting and trivial. Perhaps you've made a mistake at work, or you've had a crisis of dinner, which means that your family is eating pizza for the third time in three days. It is really not worth stressing yourself on.

You may have a big decision to make, or a big problem to confront. It could have been on your mind for days or weeks. It may even be something that you mentioned (or supported on) with your partner.

The problem is that you feel that you do not get anywhere. You are just as uncertain or anxiety that you were before.

It is the ideal time to grab a pen and paper. Write about the problem - perhaps in the style of a journal, or as a list of ideas entry - or draw something that represents the current situation. By your thinking. on paperyou start automatically create the structure and order, which allows you to see things from a new perspective, more clear. It is likely that you will find several possible solutions.

Whatever your current situation, you have loads of great things in your life too. Some of us (me included!) are too easy to moan about the things that is not well - but difficult to find good things everyday that we take for granted.

Spend five minutes writing a list of things you are grateful dedicated to They can be big ("my parents love and support") or small ("fresh coffee"). It is a powerful exercise on a regular basis, perhaps every week. You can also do family.

When I feel a little fed to the top or spells, I try to go out for a walk. Often, I don't feel as do - but as soon as I am outdoors and travel, I find my mood considerably improve.

Walking is an excellent way to physically out of all what is pointing out that you (your work, the State of the Cook) and to give you a chance to think. If you somewhere relaxing head, as a local park or a forest zone, you will find that your thoughts calm and that it is easier to get things in perspective.

Away from the House - if it is for a few days or a few months - can be an incredibly powerful experience, same change of life. Just stay in a city different will bring you your usual routine (and perhaps helps discover you what you want to add in your everyday life).

If you go abroad, you will be able to experience a completely new perspective. You will see how life can be lived in hundreds of very different ways. You will have the space and time to think about your own life, and you may well be motivated to make big changes.

Even the most dull bits of travel can be powerful: a long plane ride may be a rare opportunity to read a whole book in a single session, for example.

The next time you're struggling to get the point of view, ask why do you something. Your inner child here channels - be persistent in pushing for a real answer!

If you're working a job you hate, why are you it? It is perhaps for money - but do you really need the money? (You may well be). "(But it is possible that you try to support a way of life which is in fact make you miserable).".

It may be uncomfortable to look at the reasons why we are going to pursue the objectives that we have. But by being honest with yourself, you can open the possibility of change.

Most of us were deeply rooted beliefs on certain subjects - perhaps religion, politics, morality, social justice or similar compelling issues.

You may find very difficult to understand how someone could be so crazy to support the "opponents" of your particular point of view. It is an interesting exercise to read or listen to an argument put forwards by a group that you would normally disagree with.

I do not say that you must change your point of view or compromise your values. But I'm not that you acknowledge that there is good and intelligent, thoughtful people who have different you opinions. You can well be in disagreement with them - but it is useful to see where they're coming from.

This can be a powerful and upsetting same way to change your point of view, so be careful and don't get drawn into arguments yourself: just listen and make the effort to understand.

Are there areas of life where you need to get a point of view? If you have any thoughts or ideas to share, comments are open…

Bio of the author:

Ali writes about personal growth and development on his blog, Aliventures. Like blogs, she wrote fiction and prepares an MA in creative writing.

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The change of Direction later in life

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ByWendy Thomas

Here is the paradox: more than 50 years, change gets more difficult, and it may also appear even more urgent.

For most of us, life is well established and solidly entrenched behaviour. We can have lived in the same house or city for many years, with the same partner just as long and worked in the same field in all this time. But, just as the concept of retirement begins to loom come on the mental horizon, circumstances or natural processes often conspire to get rid of the runway.

I remember an old much friend telling me many years ago that was going through menopause induced by a strange feeling 'like being in love, but without an object', as she described. Now, my experience tells me the truth of this strange feeling of separation from the previously held assumptions which can often provide the impetus for major change. Women over 50 years may also meet with the syndrome of the suddenly free of the requirements of young adults, empty nest and therefore especially determined to return to their own lives and run it differently.

Other triggers, often more powerful men, include redundancy and early retirement. The abrupt change of status and sense of self often comes with finishing work can easily get rid of the balance and propel us into the major change.

This implies a process, when dissatisfaction with the status quo sets. If this is not resolved by discussions or renegotiating with others directly concerned, the mental recognition of the need for decisive action gets the ball.

There is a lot riding on the change of end of life, and it is not only the concerns of financial insecurity at a time where the income is likely to decrease. It can be scary to leave a relationship in the long term, with thoughts insidious never meet someone else and spending of age alone (and loved in the worst mental scenarios that tend to haunt decision at this stage of life)-old emotionally.

Even what can be considered more positive choices, such as moving house or going to live abroad and enjoy the retirement in the Sun can bring added stress factors at a certain age. What are the chances to close at a new ties of friendship where we left behind people who have known us for thirty or forty years? How will never come to learn a foreign language when we cannot even remember the names of the people we met yesterday?

And the possibility of it all go wrong is even more difficult, because trying to go back can be a change too far without the same energy and negligent confidence of young people.

This change in later life can be difficult for many reasons. But none of these are strong enough to be a bad idea if the seed is actually planted and we deeply know that current circumstances cannot be adapted to make happy and rewarding life that we would like - and, admittedly, we deserve damn well after a long hard work life.

It is never too late to change. I know of 80 years, moving to England in France to begin a new life and good luck to them. I have a friend who, almost 60, left his country house and the use of the decades of living with a new partner and forge a very different life in a small country town. Myself, I have moved abroad and later decided to leave my marriage despite a precarious - let's be honest, positively overwhelming - financial situation. I regret my decision to major change in my mid-50 years? PAS for a moment. I am alive and I am kicking.

Bio of the author:

Wendy Thomas writes about change in later life to the www.late-change.blogspot.com

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